daily prompt · Grief · Love

I Felt Like an Adult When…

When was the first time you really felt like a grown up (if ever)?

I realized, after the death of my mother, I was rendered an orphan. It’s not a club I wanted a complimentary membership to. But it’s an unavoidable membership for most of us. When the realization hits, no matter one’s age – though admittedly, being a child and experiencing this would be devastatingly traumatic – it is felt like an inexplicable heaviness in the chest that seeps its way down to the ends of the toes. Because what is really happening is one is facing one’s own mortality. And if that doesn’t make you feel like an adult, nothing will.

daily prompt · Grief · Love

Possessions Come and Go

What would you do if you lost all your possessions?

They are material things, items that can be replaced. Even the ones that are not replaceable like photographs and important documents are still objects that you will miss, but you will not long for.

Irreplaceable are the people you love. Once you lose them in the final act of life, losing material, worldly possessions can’t touch you.

Advice · daily prompt · Good advice · Saying I’m sorry · The best advice I ever received

The best piece of advice I’ve ever received came from one of my worst mistakes

What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?

“Stop saying you’re sorry for something you did not do. Do not take personal responsibility for something that has nothing to do with you or your actions. We say ‘I’m sorry,’ as a reflex response, a sentence filler, to a lot of situations that we did not create. It’s a passive response, a guilt giver. Remove it from your vernacular. Only say you’re sorry as a direct result of your own actions.”

daily prompt · Writing

Why I don’t Consider Myself a Leader

Do you see yourself as a leader?

Because I’m typically an outlier. An observer of people and everything around me. I’m not a follower either, because my stubborn streak doesn’t allow me to follow blindly without questioning first. I’m more of a thinker, a student of human nature and nature, and all its forms. If it makes sense to follow, I will. If it makes sense to be a leader in a given moment, I’ll do that. But inherently, I’m an observer. I try to reproduce with photography or the written word what I see, and how what I see makes me feel.