Advice · blogging · daily prompt

Kindness

What is the most important thing to carry with you all the time?

Even when it’s difficult, even when others don’t do the same, try to remain kind, because we don’t know what others are going through. And if we had the choice, we would want to be treated with kindness. It is challenging to try to keep kindness in your back pocket each day, because it seems we are met with so much cruelty and things that are unkind as soon as we leave the house. But if you look for it, kindness is out there, and sometimes it needs a starting point to gain momentum or to turn a grumpy person in the grocery store to a laughing one. It’s not easy to do this. It requires discipline and practice. Sometimes kindness does not work. There will always be those people who will not budge into a softer version of themselves. That’s OK, but do please leave those people in the dust.

Look for the ones who reciprocate the kindness – they will understand why you carry it with you.

Happy Saturday/Caturday, everyone!

daily prompt · Writing

Breadcrumbs

Which food, when you eat it, instantly transports you to adolescence? (Prompt altered for context.)

Breadcrumbing signs

A typical breadcrumber might:

  • fail to reply to texts or chats for several days or weeks, then send a few long messages without explaining why they temporarily disappeared
  • mention shared interests or experiences to reinforce a sense of connection 
  • keep you looking to the future with vague statements like, “Let’s pencil that in”
  • imply that they’d love to see you but ignore your requests to make an actual plan
  • keep messages superficial and generic instead of offering concrete details or showing interest in your daily life
  • view or like your social media posts without responding, while still ignoring actual messages you’ve sent
  • communicate primarily with photos, memes, or emoji
  • show interest in hooking up but not spending non-physical time together

Source: https://www.healthline.com/health/relationships/breadcrumbing#takeaway

Bread-crumbing will stop only if you refuse to exist only on small pieces of stale bread. They’re not going to stop dropping breadcrumbs like they’re sloppily making Thanksgiving stuffing, so the onus is on the person who wants the actual meal, not the topping. And if you have a gluten allergy, run for the hills. Everyone else, just run away from the crumbs. Find the whole loaf of bread somewhere else. 

Advice · daily prompt

How To Slow Down

Daily writing prompt
What’s something most people don’t understand?

You don’t always have to drive as fast as possible to get to a destination. Try leaving earlier instead. Keep your temper in check. Nothing is worth rage. If you die tomorrow and you were angry today, will you be angry for eternity? Maybe. I’m not willing to play those odds. If you treat others poorly, whether in business or personal endeavors, expect to be treated the same way at some point in your life/business dealings. Be a good person, help people, and get your face out of your phone. And slow down.

daily prompt · Good advice

None of This Lasts

What’s something you believe everyone should know.

Enjoy people while you have them. Don’t focus on material things beyond what you need to survive and have a little cushion. Savor every second of every day because as you get older, you realize you maybe didn’t appreciate that moment at that time as much as you would, if you could do it again. No one ever wants to go back to high school, that’s why people have bad dreams about it. Learn how to love people and how to receive love. Have a pet from a young age, so that you understand what unconditional love is, and you understand how to care for something outside of yourself. If someone hurts you, you don’t get to say that they didn’t – and this goes both ways. Say you’re sorry first. Laugh every day. Say hello to people, especially the grumpy looking ones. You don’t have to forgive if you don’t want to, but try to let it go, so it doesn’t eat you up inside. It’s better for your own health than holding a grudge for life. Because this all ends.

Advice · daily prompt · Good advice · Saying I’m sorry · The best advice I ever received

The best piece of advice I’ve ever received came from one of my worst mistakes

What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?

“Stop saying you’re sorry for something you did not do. Do not take personal responsibility for something that has nothing to do with you or your actions. We say ‘I’m sorry,’ as a reflex response, a sentence filler, to a lot of situations that we did not create. It’s a passive response, a guilt giver. Remove it from your vernacular. Only say you’re sorry as a direct result of your own actions.”